No one can be mature and talk anymore. NO one can. They think they are doing whats right by sick-ass sneaky underhanded baby shit, but okay...so lets say someone does that. Fine. They feel they triumphed. (Aside from the fact, that they SOOOO didn't at all!). What was solved? In fact, is it not worse!!?? From their point of view I mean! If they have a problem with you and they are nervous around you...WHATEVER, and they go about trying to fix things without ACTUALLY doing so...they are still nervous! They are still upset! They are still waiting for some theoretical shoe to drop! All of this, when the answer has been in front of them all along in SIMPLE, HONEST COMMUNICATION AND HEALING. But I suppose that's too hard for some people. These people are pussies. Yes, it takes work. Yes, it takes commitment. Maybe even a few tears and hugs...the works. But by doing so, everyone can get along and not feel that they have the sword of Damocles hanging about their head by frayed piano wire.
I'll tell you why that doesn't happen. People feel avoidance is easier, but what does it solve!!?? It makes this WORSE! It's fucking proven EVERY....GODDAMN...DAY. And then....they are left no better than they were before, if NOT worse! It's like, "congrats...all that blood, sweat, and tears for not a goddamn single thing you gained for peace of mind. You must be proud of yourself" lol. It would be funny if it was not so tragic, because look...I don't wanna see even my worst enemies SUFFER. That's not who I am and not who I ever been.
My advice to anyone out there: If you have a problem with someone. If you are scared to heal. If trust is gone....TALK TO THAT PERSON. MAKE...IT...RIGHT. In my experience, and trust me, being gay, I've dealt with SO much drama in the club scene (sorry, but some stereotypes are sadly true), but in my experience, it's never EVER EVER EVEEERRRR too late to bite the bullet (just an expression) and reach out, saying "Look, this has gone on far enough. Let's talk, because this is no good for anyone. People are hurting, they are scared, and they just wanna live their lives". See, people do not do that because they think it's admitting some kinda defeat or something. It's pride. It's hubris. But it's not defeat!! It's the opposite! By talking, and I mean REAL HONEST communication with no drama and no games, makes you the strongest person alive in my eyes.
It's a pity people cannot do that.